The discomfort no one warns you about when you finally slow down

What I’m learning from the stillness I used to avoid and outrun

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I felt it coming. I tried to outrun it, work around it, and even push through it. But my body said no more. My mind said no more. My momentum came to a grinding halt.

Suddenly, everything slowed down to quite an uncomfortable pace.

A couple of life circumstances sparked this slowdown, and it has now transformed into a full surrender.

Not fully by choice, but maybe for a reason.

I used to see slowdowns as setbacks—something to fix, recover from, or push through.

But lately, I’m beginning to see them differently. Maybe they’re not interruptions, but invitations to discover what I could learn from them.

Because this particular flavor of discomfort is one so many driven entrepreneurs carry—the belief that we can’t slow down, we can’t stop… all because we were taught to measure progress and success by how fast we’re constantly moving or how much we’re consistently performing.

Inevitably, you will experience a slowdown at some point.

It can happen by choice through an intentional pause to reassess, recalibrate, or rest. A vacation. Some time off. Maybe you sensed some misalignment and proactively cleared space to regroup.

Other times, it was chosen for you. A health condition. Something unexpected happens. Life decided to rearrange your priorities without permission.

No matter how it arrives, a slowdown in your business can initially feel disorienting—a disruption that forces a change, whether you’re ready or not. And underneath the surface, something even more unexpected starts to unfold.

What’s often missed in those moments is that the pause itself isn’t the problem.

It’s what arises in the stillness that makes it hard to sit with

Most avoid it, but within that discomfort lies something worth paying attention to.

You might feel unproductive. Off track. Behind.

The external noise starts creeping in. "You should be doing more." "You can’t afford to stop." Or the worst… "you’re losing momentum."

It’s easy to believe that slowing down is a setback or even a sign of failure. Most starting running again out of fear, out of obligation, or out of pure habit.

But here’s the blindspot most driven entrepreneurs miss when life forces them to pump the brakes:

A slowdown doesn’t mean you’re off path.
It’s often the most necessary part of your growth.

What you’re not often told is that slowdowns come with invisible layers. They're not just about rest or recovery. They reveal cracks you didn’t know existed. And they rarely show up in a neat, convenient package. Often, they feel like… chaos.

You think you’ll have space to reflect. Instead, you’re met with a flood of unease and dread you didn’t RSVP for:

• The creeping anxiety and guilt of “not doing enough”

• Pressure to make the most of this time

• The mental noise you’ve kept at bay with busyness now surfacing

• A nervous itch to fill the void or strong avoidance to face those uncomfortable thoughts

• A haunting fear of momentum you gave up and might never “get back”

The deeper blindspot isn’t just the discomfort of stopping. It’s the assumption that momentum equals alignment. That as long as you’re moving forward, you must be on the right track.

But slowdowns expose what you truly need

It shows you where you’ve been operating on outdated definitions of success or inherited metrics you never questioned. They uncover where you’ve been overidentifying with your output or mistaking control for stability.

This is the part no one warns you about:

Sometimes you’ll lose your rhythm in order to find your truth.

The truth doesn’t always arrive with clarity. Sometimes it starts with the unraveling.

The course/workshop/program you were certain would be your breakthrough starts to feel lifeless. The structure that used to give you certainty now feels like a cage. Your body refuses to keep up with a pace you no longer want but didn’t feel “allowed” to stop.

These moments don’t feel like wisdom at first. They feel like failure, but here’s a new way to look at them…

Slowdowns are a revelation

They peel back the layers of performance—of the should’s, the external validation, the overexertion of efforting, and ask:

Who are you when you’re not achieving?
What remains when your plans are paused?

That’s the real discomfort.

Not the lack of activity, but the unfamiliarity of facing your own reflection without a role or result to cling to.

But that’s also the power.

Because when you confront that question honestly, you begin to rebuild from a deeper foundation—one not rooted in urgency or image, but in clarity, congruence, and trust.

In fact, it's in these slower, quieter moments that the most vital clarity can finally come through.

When you're constantly producing, planning, or pushing forward, there's little room to assess if your actions are still aligned with your values—or simply echoes of what used to matter.

Yes, that is plenty uncomfortable.

You may grieve your previous momentum. You may question your worth when you're not “doing.” There can be real despair when you feel like you're no longer in control.

But it’s also in these moments that you develop a deeper kind of self trust.

You get to examine:

• What was driving your pace in the first place?

• What assumptions were you carrying about what “enough” looks like?

• What parts of your work or identity feel threatened when you're not achieving?

That’s the real work. Not bouncing back as quickly as possible, but being brave enough to ask what this experience is revealing about how you relate to effort, self worth, and control.

Here’s what’s often true underneath it all:

When your body, mind, or life forces a pivot, it’s rarely random. It’s responding to an invisible accumulation of unaddressed strain, misalignment, or silence that’s finally too loud or too heavy to ignore.

This isn’t punishment. It’s protection.

Not failure… but feedback.

Not a detour… but an invitation.

The question becomes… “Will you listen?”

Because what you learn in these moments can fundamentally reshape how you work, create, and relate. If you let it, this slowdown can teach you how to lead from clear intentions instead of pressure… to build sustainability into your systems… and to give yourself the permission you’ve always craved but never dared to grant.

What if the guilt you’ve been feeling isn’t meant to shame you but show you a different way?

You might not have chosen this pace, but you get to choose what it becomes.

I used to see this as a setback and would quickly try to get back to my prior pace or what I’ve been told I should be doing. Believing it was the right thing to do or that it’s the only way.

But by conducting this 4 Day Work Week Experiment, I am making different choices. I am questioning it all. I’m not just adjusting my schedule. I’m examining and unraveling the patterns underneath the hustle.

This stage has been uncomfortable, disorienting, and… strangely clarifying. I don’t have a perfect system yet. But through this Sandbox, I’m uncovering what might finally make my work sustainable.

There is another way, and I will find my way there. More soon on what I’m parting ways with… and what is finally starting to click.

P.S. If this post helped you feel less alone in the discomfort of slowing down, give it a 💜 to let me know. Share or restack this post to remind someone else that stillness isn’t failure—it’s often the moment that reveals what’s no longer aligned and what’s truly ready to shift.