You won’t always “feel” like doing what’s actually right for you.

That’s why learning to distinguish between actual intuitive guidance and protective patterns is such a vital skill for entrepreneurs who want to stop spinning their wheels.

Intuition gets misunderstood a lot, especially when it comes to something you’re so deeply invested in. It commonly gets packaged like it’s supposed to feel light, easy, or instantly exciting, like a big full-body "yes" confirmation.

But here's the truth I've come to after years of peeling back my own patterns and watching clients hit their edges again and again…

Sometimes, your intuition will not feel good.

It could feel challenging. You might feel resistant. It could even feel impossible or out of reach.

Not because it’s wrong… but because it’s asking for something beyond the usual way you’ve been operating. It’s stretching you into a version of yourself you haven’t fully become yet.

That subtle distinction between what’s aligned and what’s just familiar is everything. It’s what lets you tell the difference between:

• Posting less because you’re being intentional… vs because you’re avoiding showing up

• Saying no to a strategy because it’s not your style… vs because it scares you to be seen

• Choosing flow over structure because it fuels you… vs because you’re avoiding the discomfort of being more disciplined

It’s not that your intuition is unreliable. It’s that your nervous system has a history and your body has a memory, so all your decisions are processed through those filters.

And when you’ve spent years equating safety with overworking, hiding, or overdelivering, your “gut” response may not be trustworthy out of the gate. Because that’s not your intuition speaking… it’s actually your deep inner fears and insecurities derailing you.

You can’t just “think” your way to clarity either. Because your unconscious mind is still affected by those your fear-ridden and insecure filters. Then it leads you to copy other people’s strategies because you feel like you can’t trust your own.

Listening to your intuition takes practice. It speaks loudest through hindsight. It requires pattern recognition, reflective observation, and often doing that uncomfortable thing anyway to see what happens.

Ask yourself:

• Did that choice leave you feeling aligned, even if it was hard?

• Or did that choice keep you comfortably stuck?

That is what I pay attention to now.

Not how the decision feels before I make it, but how I feel after I follow through.

If it creates alignment and peace, then I know it came from the part of me that wants more and better for my life.

If it creates temporary relief followed by stagnation or regret, that was likely my protective mechanism.

Here’s what most entrepreneurs aren’t aware of

Your biggest breakthroughs are always matched by an equal level of resistance.

The business you want, the lifestyle you crave, the clarity you’re chasing all have a reason why you don’t already have it. Because getting there requires more than tweaks.

It demands identity-level change.

You’re not just building a business. You’re becoming the version of you who can hold that vision, live that life, and lead at that level.

And that means stepping into the discomfort of doing things you've never done, facing parts of yourself you'd rather avoid, and letting go of ways of being that kept you safe and stagnant.

Of course, it’s hard. It’s supposed to be. The energetic cost of growth is always mirrored by the challenge it asks you to face.

That might look like:

• Saying “no” even when it risks disappointing someone… to help you overcome those people pleasing tendencies that no longer serve you

• Sticking to the plan when your body wants to run away… to help you master skills required to take you to the next level

• Owning your desires out loud instead of watering them down… to help you have what you’ve always wanted.

You can’t bypass this stage. You’re meant to step out of your comfort zone.

You grow by moving through it… not around it.

That’s where the transformation you’ve been looking for actually happens—not in a “feel good” moment, but in the moment you choose discomfort in service of your deepest desires.

Your nervous system, your habits, your fears, your values, your creativity, your old wounds… They all have a seat at the table. But not all of them should be driving your decisions.

That’s the real work.

And that’s what I’m here for… to help you listen deeper, move smarter, and choose from your clearest self, which may not be your most comfortable one.

Because your business deserves more than what’s easy. It deserves what’s true and a version of you that’ll keep showing up for it.

Now, this is where radically self honesty becomes your superpower:
If you trusted your intuition fully… what decision would you stop postponing?

Feel free to share it in the comments below, and I'll celebrate with you the courage you took to face what’s hard in order to honor what you’ve always wanted.

Yes, what you want it possible, and let’s find your way there.

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There’s a voice that exists within you.

The higher you rise, the louder it gets.

No, it doesn’t disappear with success—it evolves.

The more you grow, the more money you make, the more you take on bigger opportunities, the more you push past your comfort zone… the more THIS shows up.

Even the most accomplished people battle with this. (Yes, even your role models!)

And watch out! It’s really sneaky…

It disguises itself as logic, convincing you that you’re just being “smart” or “strategic” when really… you’ve just committed another act of self sabotage!

So how do you know if it’s affecting you?

Have you ever caught yourself thinking…

• "Once I hit this next milestone, then I’ll finally feel like I’ve made it.”

• “If I had more ______, then people would take me more seriously.”

• “Everyone else seems so much more confident and accomplished… Do I really belong here?”

• "What if people find out I’m not as ______ as they think I am?"

Ugh, there goes that voice again. Damn you, Imposter Syndrome!

No matter how much you achieve, no matter how many milestones you hit, that critical voice of Imposter Syndrome just doesn’t go away.

Has that critical voice been loud for you lately?

It has for me.

It somehow makes me forget, diminish, and overlook my own experiences. It kept telling me that they weren’t “good enough” compared to others.

I didn’t feel qualified enough to call myself a coach, so I got 2 different coaching certifications. How much money and time I’ve spent could’ve gotten me a degree in grad school, but even after I passed those certifications with flying colors, I still didn’t feel “good enough.”

So I thought, “Why not actually go to grad school and get a Master's?” Then, those letters after my name would prove to others that I am an expert.

…and I was SO GLAD I got rejected!!

…because that could’ve been 5-6 figures of tuition over 2-3 years of schooling, and 2-3 more years of logging nearly 5000 hours of hands on experience and passing an exam that requires continued education every 2 years to maintain that license.

…and I ended up pivoting from that niche anyways!

Nope, that wasn’t going to give me the confidence I was seeking.

Yup, that would’ve been one long and expensive procrastination tactic.

For sure, a degree will never be enough if you don’t believe in yourself.

Did you know that…

• Steve Jobs never earned a degree in computer engineering or design. He forged his own path into the tech world by obsessively studying innovation, experimenting fearlessly, and trusting his instincts. Without formal training, without corporate backing, and without following the traditional path, he built one of the most iconic companies in history and redefined the way we use technology.

• Oprah Winfrey never had formal training in journalism or business. She blazed her own trail into media by mastering the art of storytelling, connecting deeply with people, and turning raw authenticity into a superpower. Without a prestigious background, without industry approval, and without waiting for someone to open doors for her, she became one of the most influential media moguls of all time.

• Steven Spielberg was rejected from film school multiple times and never received a formal film education. He carved his own way into the industry by relentlessly pursuing hands on experience and observing professional directors in action. Without a degree, without permission, and without waiting to be qualified, he became one of the most legendary directors of all time.

• Jane Austen never had a formal education in literature or writing. She created her own opportunities in the literary world by sharpening her craft through keen social observation, relentless practice, and an unshakable belief in her voice. Without a university degree, without the endorsement of literary elites, and without the privileges afforded to male writers of her time, she became a literary icon, shaping the course of fiction for generations to come and proving that talent and persistence will always outshine credentials.

• Tony Robbins never earned a degree in psychology or coaching. He paved his own way into the personal development world by immersing himself in human behavior, continuously learning from mentors, and actually helping people change their lives. Without credentials, without a traditional education, and without waiting to be certified, he became one of the most well known and sought after life strategists in the world.

As an entrepreneur, your certifications don’t matter as much compared to whether or not you can answer this question: “Can you help me with this problem?!”

So why do you still feel like a fraud?

Because deep down, it’s not about needing more knowledge, credentials, experience, or resources.

It’s about not believing that what you already have is enough.

You think that if you just have more, you’ll finally feel more confident or good enough.

But here’s the truth: Confidence and self worth don’t come from knowing or having more—it comes from showing up, despite the fears and doubt.

The more you wait to feel ready, the more you reinforce the belief that you feel like you’re not.

The hidden reasons behind your lack of confidence

The inner Disruptor Debilitating Imposter Syndrome doesn’t just make you question your worth. It makes you chase a version of success where you’ll never feel satisfied.

You think you’re unqualified, only because you’re measuring yourself against an impossible standard—one where you’ll never feel good enough.

No matter what you accomplish, your brain moves the goalpost.

No matter how much you do, it doesn’t feel like enough.

No matter how much proof you have, you still feel like you’re not “there” yet.

So you stay on the sidelines, waiting for the moment when you finally feel like an expert—when in reality, that moment will only come once you decide to own your expertise, as you are right now.

This is why it doesn’t matter how many wins, certifications, or clients you get—if you don’t change the way you measure your own success, you’ll always feel behind.

Hey, you probably don’t think of yourself as “stuck.”

All that learning, improving, and gaining experience feels like progress.

But if you’re being honest, how much of that is just a… stalling tactic?

If you’ve been:

• Chasing credentials—believing that one more certification, degree, or course will finally make you "legit”

• Downplaying your expertise—acting like what you know is “obvious” or “nothing special” when it doesn’t come naturally to others

• Dismissing your wins—focusing on what you haven’t done yet or crediting luck, timing, or other people instead of owning your achievements and recognizing your progress

• Avoiding feedback—delaying sharing your work because you’re afraid of being “found out” or exposed as not good enough

• Hiding in the background—holding back or running away from opportunities because you don’t feel “qualified” yet…

You’re not just being cautious. You’re keeping yourself invisible. These are holding you back from stepping into your full potential.

No, imposter syndrome isn’t proof that you’re not good enough. The only thing it’s proving is that you have avoided putting yourself out there.

You’re not actually missing more qualifications. You’re just scared that if you try and fail, it will confirm your worst fears about yourself.

But the real failure is staying stuck, second guessing, and holding yourself back while others with less experience move forward simply because they’re willing to try.

The longer you wait to feel ready, the more opportunities pass you by.

Imagine where you’d be right now if you had trusted yourself sooner. How many missed opportunities, ideas left unshared, or potential clients never reached—all because you believed you weren’t “ready” or “good enough”?

The hidden mental blockers you need to toss out

Overcoming imposter syndrome isn’t about gathering more proof. Sure, you could make a list of accomplishments to boost your confidence for a moment. But would that truly make you feel ready to put yourself out there?

Sounds great, but probably not.

I’ve done it. I’ve asked clients to do it. And no, that wasn’t the transformative factor.

THIS IS… learning how to take action without needing permission, external validation, or absolute certainty. Confidence comes from doing it messy, doing it scared, and doing it no matter what.

Here are the 3 things to stop holding onto:

• Stop using “I’m not ready” as an excuse – Readiness isn’t a real benchmark. It’s just a feeling, and feelings are unreliable. Instead, set a clear, objective milestone that cannot be tied to self doubt. Choose one small, doable action and make that your launching point. Not when you feel ready. Not when everything is perfect. But now.

• Stop waiting for permission – No one is going to tap you on the shoulder and declare, “Congrats, you’re officially qualified!” Even if you do earn a certification or reach a milestone, you still have to claim and own your expertise. The only permission you need is your own.

• Stop telling yourself you’re not good enough – Your self talk matters. The more you repeat this, the more you convince yourself it’s true… and without a doubt, your brain will find ways to prove it. Instead, shift your focus to where you are enough and start acting from that place. There are people with less experience, fewer skills, and half your knowledge already doing what you’re hesitating to do. So why not you?

The only way to feel ready is to start before you do. Competence comes from experience, from action, and from gathering results. The more you show up, the more confidence and self worth you create for yourself.

Success won’t come from feeling like an expert.
It comes from showing up as one, just as you are.

You don’t need another certification to be qualified.

You don’t need external validation to be credible.

You don’t need more proof to start owning your expertise.

You need more proof of action!

Because confidence, recognition, and success don’t come from waiting until you feel ready.

They become yours when you face your fears and show up anyways.

Stop waiting. Stop hiding. Stop believing the lie that you have to be more before you can do more.

You already have everything you need.

Imagine where you’d be a year from now. You could be further along than you ever imagined—or still sitting in the same spot, doubting yourself and what was possible.

What decides your outcome is… whether you choose to show up now.

I’m in this with you.

Next week, I’ll be announcing a real time, public experiment—showing you how I apply the “Less but Better” philosophies to my work and how I intentionally leverage the inner Disruptors as guideposts rather than pitfalls. (This experiment was a byproduct of me facing Debilitating Imposter Syndrome!)

You’ll get to watch it all unfold, learn from the inside out, and hey, you could even join me on the journey if it speaks to you. Stay tuned!!

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Back in the early stages of entrepreneurship, I was bright-eyed, bushy-tailed excited about starting my own business. I loved the idea of working for myself, owning my own time, and working on my terms.

No more corporate drama.
No more layers of approval before I could take action on my idea.
No more sacrificing my golden years on building someone else’s dreams.

It was MY turn now.

So I dived right in, trying to learn all about becoming a coach.

I signed up for all these programs, got a couple of coaching certifications, and hired business coaches to help me figure it all out.

I went through iterations of researching, mapping out approaches, refining my messaging, and making sure I had the perfect setup before launching.

Even if I launched, I was so timid about sharing it widely.

I put all my hopes in “build it and they’ll come”… and it was met with crickets.

Sometimes I’d see a little traction, but it felt painfully slow—especially compared to those who seemed to skyrocket overnight.

I thought it wasn’t “good enough”, so I repeatedly went back to the drawing board. I tweaked my approach. I debated different ways to position myself or my offer. I studied what others were doing and wondered, “Maybe I should try that instead?”

I told myself I was being smart, strategic, and intentional. But in reality?

I was stalling.

But deep down, I wasn’t waiting for more clarity or better strategies.

I was waiting to feel ready.

Waiting for the right moment, the right plan, and the right level of confidence to come to me.

…and that moment never came.

I thought all this prep work and learning was going to make me ready for what I wanted to do.

But the more I thought about it, the more pressure I put on myself, and the more I felt like a failure. Sometimes, it’d feel hard taking more action because I would get into this “why bother” or “none of this is working” mode.

I was stuck in an endless loop of overthinking, second guessing, and pivoting strategies.

Then one day, after getting burned out and frustrated from all the doing, all the chasing, and exhausting seemingly all the possibilities, it finally dawned on me that… No amount of thinking or churning behind the scenes was going to make you feel ready.

You probably don’t think of yourself as “stuck.” Researching, strategizing, planning, and refining all feel productive. But if you’re being honest, how much of that work is actually moving you forward?

So if you’ve been:

• Consuming more than you create—reading, watching, and taking notes, but never implementing.

• Starting and stopping—getting excited about new ideas but never following through long enough to see results.

• Questioning every decision—constantly tweaking your approach or waiting for the “perfect” moment…

Then read on. Here’s what you need to know to kick indecision and analysis paralysis to the curb.

The real reason you keep delaying progress

The inner Disruptor Analysis Paralysis Inaction has been eating up all of your highly productive mental bandwidth by making you believe that the reasons are external:

• "I just need more time to figure this out."

• “I need a better strategy before I start.”

• “I don’t have the right tools or resources yet.”

So the obvious solution seems to be setting up more tools or gathering more info—learning from others, weighing all the options, and thinking through possible scenarios.

But deep down, Analysis Paralysis Inaction isn’t about needing more clarity, having a better plan, or doing it better.

The truth is… you’re scared that your next move won’t be the right one.

You don’t have a decision making problem.

You don’t have a strategy problem.

You have a trust problem.

You already know enough, but you don’t trust yourself to make a decisive, firm choice and follow through with it.

Instead of believing in your ability to adapt, pivot, and learn through action, you’re trying to engineer certainty before you even start.

This is why decision making feels daunting.

You’re not just choosing a path—you’re trying to eliminate all possible risk. And since that’s impossible, you put it off.

But certainty isn’t a prerequisite for action. It’s a result of it.

You find the right answers through action.

You build confidence in your decisions by taking action and adapting as you go.

Stop trying to eliminate all risks and start trusting yourself to figure it out.

Because you can.

The real strategy: Learning through doing

You don’t need more time to think. You don’t need another strategy. You don’t need another course.

You need more trust in what feels right to you, start before you feel ready, and stick with it long enough to get actual results.

If you keep chasing more strategies and pivoting too soon, you’ll never know if that approach could’ve worked for you.

It’s not about recklessly rushing into things. It’s about embracing those smaller, lower risk action steps so you can build real confidence instead of waiting for it to magically appear.

Try these 5 actionable steps instead:

1. DO A QUICK VISION ALIGNMENT TEST
   Before you commit to a new strategy, evaluate whether it aligns with your business vision and ideal work lifestyle. “Play it forward" by running a mental simulation of what it would look like executing that strategy for years on top of what you’re already doing. Then ask yourself: “Does this move you closer to your goals or derail you?” and “Does this excite you or drain you?” If it aligns, decide on a tiny, low risk action step to test it out. If it doesn’t, move on.

2. COMMIT TO A LONGER TIMEFRAME TO GATHER MORE DATA
   Commit to testing a strategy for a set period, such as 60 days or 3 months, before deciding whether it works. Get through that initial learning curve phase to develop a better sense of its effectiveness and whether or not you enjoy it. In other words, slow the f down and focus on consistency over pivoting.

3. SET A DECISION DEADLINE
   Give yourself a hard deadline to stop researching and make a choice. Be sure to create clear conditions or measurable metrics to gauge its effectiveness by the deadline. Evaluate on the date of your deadline as to whether you want to continue. Steer yourself from any temptation to pivot or stop before the deadline.

4. LAUNCH “GOOD ENOUGH” AND ITERATE FROM THERE
   Instead of trying to get everything perfect from the start, launch something that’s “good enough” (70-80% there), get real world feedback, and tweak accordingly. Don’t work in a silo, perfecting something no one sees. Focus on smaller iterative phases. Transform it from a “just a theory” into “proven results” by getting feedback from your audience.

5. REDEFINE FAILURE AS FEEDBACK
   Stop treating mistakes as proof you weren’t ready. Instead, see them as data, helping you refine, improve, and grow. Failure isn’t bad. It’s just a part of the process to help you figure out the right solutions for you.

Act like a curious scientist conducting an experiment.

Nothing is guaranteed, and everything is a test.

Take action, gather data, and adjust. That’s how you create progress.

Create the momentum you want

Your fear of taking action has never been about a lack of knowledge. It’s been about believing you need certainty before you move.

But what if the real answer has been in front of you this whole time?

What if confidence, clarity, and success aren’t things you wait for, but things you create through action?

What if the problem was never what to do next, but it’s curtailing your habit of pivoting before you give it the chance to work?

You can’t think your way into certainty.

You can’t research your way into confidence.

You can’t plan your way into progress.

The only way forward is to trust yourself.

Move with purpose. Adjust as needed. Keep going.

The breakthrough you want is waiting on the other side of action.

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You’re always working—but are you actually getting anywhere?

You’re answering emails, refining your offers, posting content, and juggling all those endless to dos. It feels productive, but at the end of the day, are you making real progress? …or just keeping yourself busy?

Because if you’re be…

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“Not enough” is the warden to my prison cell.

I feel like I’m never doing enough, so I do more.

I feel like I’m never good enough as I am, so I keep trying harder.

Growing up, I was told that I could always do better: You got an A-? How come you didn’t get an A+?

I felt like if I was perfect, then I would finally be good enough. I would’ve proven my worth, and I would’ve finally made it. (Look at me, Mommy!)

But THAT became my ultimate prison because “perfect” doesn’t exist.

…and that meant that I will “never” be good enough.

I used seeking perfectionism as a way of control, micromanaging my way through uncertainty and self doubt.

If I do the best I can, I’d made a good (or great) first impression.

If I try my hardest, I’d be liked, accepted, and appreciated.

You tell yourself you’re just making it better and making sure it’s right.

You tweak. You refine. You overanalyze.

You then fill your time with endless revisions, convincing yourself you’re being “thorough”.

Somehow, “just a little more” turns into hours, days, weeks, and maybe even months of work and second guessing whether what you’ve done is good enough.

You tell yourself you’ll be ready once it’s perfect… but there’s always more to do.

You put in all that efforts to make it as good as you can… but your minimal standards keep shifting and elevating.

Instead of moving forward, you stay busy in an endless cycle of polishing and redoing.

Let’s take a moment to really consider: Is all that behind-the-scenes work… truly progress?

In reality, you’re just delaying. Because all that time has passed and to you, it’s still not good enough… in some way.

Isn’t that such a sneaky form of self sabotage?

Oh, I know, because I’ve done my fair share of it.

Here’s an example: I spent weeks perfecting my website before launching, obsessing over the wording and the layout. Thinking if I got it just right, I’d have clients knocking down my door wanting to work with me.

But did they when I finally launched it? No. My website was like a grain of sand on a beach. Unless they knew where to find me, no one noticed or knew how to find it.

Do you need to have a website to run your business? Sure, it can help but it is not a prerequisite.

I could’ve been doing more meaningful work, like engaging with prospects and actually talking to leads instead of grinding behind the scenes. Did it need some refining? Yah, but what I was really scared of was putting myself out there, scared of failing, and scared of being judged and rejected.

That extra time behind the scenes didn’t make it significantly better.

What could’ve made it better was getting actual real world feedback and discovering what my audience really wanted help with and connecting directly with them.

Perfectionism doesn’t always look like fear. It disguises itself as high standards, preparation, and showing up responsibly. It makes you believe that if you can refine things just a little more, you’ll avoid failure, judgment, and regret.

Why perfectionism feels safe… but it isn’t

Your brain isn’t trying to sabotage you. It’s just trying to keep you safe. Perfectionism isn’t just about doing it well—it’s a coping mechanism designed to help you avoid potential risks.

It’s your mind’s way of shielding you from:

• Fear of failure—so you refine endlessly instead of risking mistakes.

• Fear of judgment—so you hold back rather than putting imperfect work into the world.

• Fear of losing control—so you micromanage every step, making things feel safe but ultimately hindering (or in the worst case, halting) your progress.

Instead of protecting you, this cycle keeps you stuck—continuously stalling, overworking, and convincing yourself to wait until everything is “just right”.

The perfectionism quick sand

One of the biggest pitfalls I see high achieving entrepreneurs fall into is Control Freak Perfectionism—the belief that success requires micromanaging every detail to guarantee the “right” outcome.

Every time you chase perfection, you reinforce the idea that your work isn’t good enough… yet. That hesitation becomes a habit. That habit becomes your default. Before you know it, you’ve wasted valuable time refining instead of actually making progress.

This self sabotaging behavior is what I call an Entrepreneurial Sin, and it might show up like this:

• You spend hours obsessing over small details that don’t actually move the needle.

• You hold back from sharing your work because it’s “not quite ready.”

• You rewrite, rework, and redo things that were already good enough the first time.

• You struggle to delegate because no one else can do it as well as you can.

If any of this resonates, you might be stuck in the polishing and perfecting mode while opportunities and progress pass you by.

Adopting this new mindset will make all the difference: Success doesn’t come from perfect execution—it comes from consistent action.

The productivity illusion

The problem isn’t your standards—it’s how you’re leveraging them.

When you chase perfection:

• You slow yourself down, missing valuable opportunities.

• You lose confidence because nothing ever feels “ready” or “good enough”.

• You work harder, but not necessarily smarter.

Perfectionism doesn’t lead to excellence. It leads to exhaustion.

The goal isn’t to lower your quality of work. It’s to channel your energy in a way that allows you to move forward without getting trapped in the perfectionist loop.

ARE YOU STUCK IN THIS CYCLE?

This is just one of the 7 Entrepreneurial Sins that can hijack your productivity and keep you stuck.

Want to know which ones are secretly sabotaging your progress?

In a few minutes, the Success Blocker Quiz can help you identify the patterns that are quietly stalling your momentum.

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Btw, your perfectionism can become your superpower

Perfectionism itself isn’t inherently bad. In fact, the same qualities that fuel it can be your biggest strengths—as long as they’re channeled into progress and fueling your goals, instead of getting you to play small.

💭 Thoughtful strategizing

• You naturally assess situations from all angles, helping you make well informed decisions.

• You anticipate challenges before they arise, allowing you to create proactive solutions.

• You don’t rush into things impulsively, ensuring your work is well thought out and intentional.

💎 Committed to delivering quality

• You have an incredible eye for refining and enhancing, ensuring high quality results.

• You take pride in your work, striving to produce something meaningful and impactful.

• You naturally refine and evolve your work, pushing yourself to be better with each iteration.

🚧 Methodical + Disciplined

• You absorb knowledge deeply, ensuring you understand the best strategies before taking action.

• You have a strong work ethic and thrive with organization and systems, allowing you to create a reliable, consistent approach.

• You value accuracy and following proven methods, which helps create strong foundations for success and commit to doing things right.

🚁 High standards + Take initiative

• You take ownership of your work and ensure things are done with quality and high standards, without being asked.

• You’re resourceful and capable, able to handle challenges without waiting on others.

• You care deeply about the outcome, ensuring that every project reflects your vision and values.

High standards, attention to detail, and strong execution are powerful assets… as long as they’re paired with action, trust, and momentum.

Benefit from the positive aspects of your perfectionism

1. Give yourself clear milestones and firm deadlines to prevent overworking small details. Intentionally step back and ask: “Is this truly unfinished, or am I just afraid to release it?”

2. Set clear boundaries and define what’s essential to completing your goals. Ask yourself: “Would this change make a real impact, or am I just avoiding the next step?”

3. Give your perfectionism a specific role, like finalizing the last 10% of the project instead of slowing yourself down earlier in the process. When you set structured limiters on where and when to perfect, you can maintain quality without sacrificing momentum.

Progress happens when you give yourself the room for growth, not when you wait for perfection. Harness these strengths with purpose and channel them from perfectionism into progress.

It’s never too late

More tweaking and refining won’t make your work perfect, just like waiting won’t make the fear disappear.

Perfectionism doesn’t create success—it delays it. It just keeps you stuck, making it harder to move forward while you get caught up in the details.

If you’re tired of overpolishing, overthinking, and overcontrolling, it’s time to uncover what’s really keeping you stuck.

Take the quiz, get your results, and start moving forward—not just refining in circles. The sooner you start and the more awareness you gain, the sooner you build real momentum. Done is better than perfect. You’ve got this!

Ready… Get set…

Once I set my goals for 2025, I could feel my inner workaholic getting giddy and excited. She’s already strapped in and with her foot on the pedal. Ready to floor it at the starting line, preparing to whip me around the race track at high speeds like a Formula One car.

It seems exciting for the first few laps, but after 20, 30, 40, 50 laps later, “C’mon!! Am I there yet?!”

For too long, entrepreneurship has been glorified as a relentless grind, a race to “out hustle” everyone else.

Social media made it even worse with those “Hustle Bros” posting photos of their fancy sports cars, expensive homes, and luxurious vacations with gorgeous women on their arms. They flaunted opulence as their sign of “making it”. (Hey, it’s not just the men, there are “Boss Babes” out there who posted stuff like this, too.)

Even without the photos, plenty of envy-inducing words bolster their seemingly “instant” or grand successes. (You’ve probably seen this type of content spreading quickly across Substack like wildfire, too—viral Posts/Notes sharing how quickly they grew their account or how much money they were able to make already.)

For me, it was the words that got me the most. The way they described their results encapsulated my full attention… because “I wanted that, too!”

They used to inspire me, but now… they exhaust me.

Because I fell into the same relentless chase of “work harder to get results faster.”

But all it did was push myself to my limits over and over again leaving me feeling depleted, disconnected, and questioning why do I keep doing this to myself.

If you’re trapped in this cycle with your inner drill sergeant, you’re not alone.

The Disruptor called “Overdoing Churn and Burnout” is one of the most common pitfalls entrepreneurs face. It’s fueled by the belief that doing more, working harder, and sacrificing everything is the only way to succeed.

Sure, it makes logical sense that you have to put in the time and effort to build something.

Yes, sacrifices have to be made to change the status quo and trajectory of your life.

But the problem isn’t that you’re unmotivated or incapable.

The problem is that you’ve been conditioned to believe that your value is dependent on how much you produce.

You think…

• “If I just put in a few more hours, I’ll finally reach my goal.”

• “Rest is unproductive. I can’t afford to slow down!!”

• “I’ve already sacrificed this much, so what’s a little more to achieve my dreams?”

But the truth?

These thoughts are white lies. They aren’t the only options. They don’t guarantee success.

Instead, they push you further into exhaustion and shame.

They shove you into deeper pits of unsustainability and lock you into modes of inauthenticity. Because eventually, you’ll get to a point that you feel like you just can’t stop—you either get some hopeful glimmers of success or become handcuffed to the amount of money it brings in.

In the last couple of years, I’ve seen and heard of so many successful “Boss Babes” and “Hustle Bros” burn out, shift their businesses, or quit their 6 or 7-figure empires because they couldn’t do it anymore.

That unescapable, exhaustive chase will eventually bite you hard in the butt.

The hidden costs of overworking

• Your creativity suffers
  When you’re burned out, inspiration becomes elusive. You try to sop up any possible ounce of creativity from an energetically empty well, and forcing it just frustrates you further.

• Your relationships deteriorate
  The people you care about get the leftovers of your time and energy. Your capacity to be present and give them your full attention is diminished.

• Your health declines
  You get sick more often and easier. Unexplained symptoms occur because you’ve bypassed all the warning signs of exhaustion and lethargy. Chronic stress has now resulted in physical and emotional signs of damage. This is often the wake up call for too many entrepreneurs and workaholics.

• Your business stagnates
  You’re stuck in survival mode, unable to scale or innovate effectively. You get suck doing what has worked versus aligning to what feels right to you. You may try to push harder or seek yet another strategy believing that would be your ticket to success, but you’re still on the same hamster wheel.

Is that “success” worth it if it costs you your health, happiness, or soul?

Can you truly justify what you’re doing to yourself, your wellbeing, and your life?

Deep down, is that really the success you wanted?

If it seems like it… then when is enough enough?

Are you in this chase for some sort of thrill, or are you trying to make up for some sort of emptiness, unfulfillment, or non-enoughness?

GO!! …at a steadier pace

The antidote to “Overdoing Churn and Burnout” isn’t to work harder, and overcoming the cycle of overdoing takes more than inspiration.

It requires intentional shifts in how you approach your work and your worth.

In the paid section below, you’ll discover how to untangle your worth from your work and create a healthier relationship with productivity.

1. Understand how hustle culture tricks you into overworking—and learn how to resist its pull.

2. Uncover the beliefs keeping you stuck in the cycle of “doing more” with a powerful journaling practice.

3. Ways to tweak your to do list and work routines that prioritize impactful work and do less but better.

This is for anyone tired of trading their wellbeing for their business and ready to rewrite those darn self sabotaging habits. [Unlock the full post below by going paid]

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Breaking points are far from being fun, but they are incredibly beneficial. They force us to pause, reflect, and confront what isn’t working.

…and that’s why I prefer to doing that process more proactively through regular intentional reflections, rather than being forced into it situationally.

But because of my 3 major setbacks, I didn’t have the mental and emotional space and capacity to be more strategically reflective. Plus, I had gurus who had convinced me theirs was the best way to the success they’ve flaunted.

Honestly, this breaking point had to happen to shake me out of that “trance” and stop me from what I was doing. None of that was sustainable, and it felt like abusive self-harm. Sadly, its PTSD-like effects are still haunting me:

Btw, I’m not using those terms lightly or exaggerating to make a point. Things got really bad for me this year. That breaking point still limits my capacity to engage and leaves me recoiling from certain content, especially the transactional, salesy vibes of online spaces.

So even though I want to engage more on Notes, read other people’s Posts, and explore new Substacks, I… just… can’t… at this moment.

What’s holding me together is my continual belief in my vision of creating meaningful interactions with likeminded individuals here and creating a community around the Soulfueled way of being… but I need to be in a better overall state before I can properly reengage socially again.

This wasn’t always so…

What began as a fun and creative way to share and connect fizzled into a soul draining cycle of comparison, pressure, and inauthenticity. That joy devolved further under the weight of expectations, endless “you-have-to’s,” and the constant chase of strategies designed to feed the algorithm, rather than align with my values.

That has still been weighing on me…

Finally, I stepped back and questioned everything!

The problem wasn’t social media itself—it was the expectations and conditions I had placed on how I used it. By modeling others, I had turned it into a transactional tool for validation and performance. I thought I built some genuine connections, but most withered away and one even horribly backfired. I realized I wasn’t building my vision of success. I was chasing someone else’s.

Plus, I’ve spent years soaking up advice, but now my soul is saying, “Stop consuming. You’ve gathered plenty. It’s time to create.”

So right now, I’m channeling my limited energy into sharing the stories and lessons that have been quietly accumulating within me.

Stepping back from engagement goes against what the gurus tout, but letting go of all those shoulds and must-dos is what I need to do right now.

Sure, I might not grow as fast… but being more Soulfueled and building genuine connections are more important to me. I don’t want to be handcuffed to vanity numbers anymore.

Changing my goalsetting metrics

I had initially set goals to grow to 200 subscribers by the end of the year, but now I see that kind of goalsetting metrics isn’t healthy for me. It triggers my obsessive workaholic tendencies. Plus, I wasn’t factoring in my state of condition and mind either.

Sure, it’s a clear, measurable metric but that also has an underlying sentiment that subscribers are just numbers and means to an end.

I don’t want the number itself. I want what that number brings and means to me!

For me, it signifies that I am building a community of likeminded people who also desire a Soulfueled business and way of life. You are actual people behind these numbers and emails, and that means something to me.

I’ve always been about quality over quantity, so why am I putting a “quantity” as a way and goal to define my success? Yes, I understand its usage and importance, but it’s about what will motivate me in the right, sustainable way, which are the intentions, how I feel, and being aligned with my soul.

I’m sharing all this to get you to think about: What truly motivates you? What are your own definition of success and the measurable metrics that feel right to you? Just because what others do works for them or is what has been touted as effective, that doesn’t mean that has to be your same method, too.

Customization is your most powerful leverage

You’re already doing something challenging by choosing to be an entrepreneur, but that’s also a powerful leverage to take advantage of.

Because you’re the one in charge, you have the ability and choice to do and set things up in a way that works better and more in alignment with you—your personality, your values, your work ethic, and your particular intentions and goals.

Remember, if you’re not the one choosing, you’re letting someone else choose for you.

So choose intentionally and tweak when needed.

P.S. I’m hosting a 2025 intentions + goals planning session on Jan 2. If you’re interested in joining us to start off 2025 Soulfueled and Strong, become one of my paid subscribers, and I’ll extend you an invite to workshops typically offered to my clients only.

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As you start planning your goals for the new year, take a moment to challenge your existing thinking and ways of doing things. What can you tweak that can motivate you better and build more sustainable habits?

This trip abroad was supposed to be relaxing and enjoyable, but I was plagued with the fears of dropping nearly everything and halting my own progress when things had been going quite well.

So I turned this into an experiment.

It was scary as hell, especially as a newer account wanting to grow.

I was haunted by a lot of thoughts going through my head…

• Guilt and shame for not doing enough and failing

• Worries and fears of losing all the momentum and progress I’ve built

• Burning the connections and goodwill I’ve created by disappearing

…but I desperately needed this break, this time away from everything.

All those feels and thoughts felt heavy and made it hard to relax on my supposed vacation and travels. I felt like I was dragging around this heavy, cumbersome suitcase filled with emotional and mental baggage everywhere I went.

Mind you, this isn’t one of those modern spinner suitcases that effortlessly glide across surfaces.

This was one of those old-school, oversized suitcases on two wheels that strained your arm and wrist as you awkwardly dragged it behind you and would jolt you backwards if there were any uneven surfaces.

It didn’t matter that I was on the other side of the world. My heavy baggage came with me.

It didn’t go away just because I was on vacation. It actually weighed heavier on my mind because I was outside my regular work routines.

I had to prepare for my vacation, which meant piling on more work ahead of time and anticipating the backlog of work once I returned. Sure, that sounds like any working professional readying for time away. But, for an entrepreneur, it can feel like crashing the progress and burning all the momentum you’ve built.

That’s why vacations are commonly rare, or the solution is to multitask work duties alongside vacationing activities.

When your entire business is on your own shoulders…

When your financial stability doesn’t come from a stable paycheck but from the direct work you’re involved in or reliant on the systems you’ve set up prior…

When you’re told that you must maintain consistency to stay in your audience’s attention and constantly feed the algorithm beast to be its good favor…

Taking time off can feel challenging, especially when there’s always more you can do. (It didn’t help that I decided to write a book right before my vacation either.)

This is why work life boundaries are a necessity, not a luxury.

This was my experiment

For 3 weeks, I carefully observed the following:

• What would happen when I stop posting on Notes (social media)?

• What would happen when I stop posting Posts (weekly newsletter)?

• What were the thoughts and feelings that would surface during this experiment?

• Based on what I discovered, which activities are important to do, and what did I miss and not miss doing?

Since this was happening anyways, why not fully commit to this experience and turn this into valuable feedback, right?

These were my results

I don’t want to be shackled by the shoulds and need-tos.

I wanted to reprogram my brain and emotions to feel differently.

So I purposely dropped everything to remind myself what it would feel like, observed what I wanted to change, and this is what I’ve noticed:

When I stopped posting Notes:

• I was still getting followers and subscribers coming in for about 1.5-2 weeks, and some trickled in the 3rd week. Whenever someone else mentioned me, I might get a little spike of interest.

• I felt FOMO and pressure for not responding or posting, but I also felt relief for not needing to be on social media. too.

When I stopped posting my weekly Posts:

• This effect was more internal as I was freaking out about not keeping up with them. But I was still thinking of topics and jotted down some notes. I’m not sure how this affected my subscriber count directly, as I believe Notes has a higher impact on new subscribers.

• BUT I did have a paid subscriber become a founder. I had new people recommending my Substack, and subscribers liking my previous Posts when those surfaced in their feed.

Fascinating observations of my own thoughts and beliefs:

1ST WEEK

• This was the week when I couldn’t fully untangle myself from work yet, so I was carving out super early mornings and evenings away from family to work. I couldn’t resist and hopped onto Notes once during the first week and commented on a few of them. Plus, I proudly completed the draft of my book and have been emailing my beta readers, too. I felt stressed but also grateful that I could take this time to travel and be with family.

• Since I couldn’t detach myself, I extended my initial 2-week experiment by another week for a total of 3 weeks.

2ND WEEK

• This was the first week I really stepped away from work, and there was a lot of guilt and shame for not working EVEN while on vacation. I was worried about killing all the momentum I’d built lately. I was stressing over the people I wasn’t responding to. I was concerned about using up all the goodwill I had built and that I was putting my reputation on the line. I was fearful of tanking my growth and engagement. I kept seeing how I wasn’t doing enough until the end of the second week, when these thoughts finally subsided.

• But I know I needed this time away for my own wellbeing, and I tried to capitalize on the last week I had with family on this trip. This reinforced the importance of owning my time and having a business that gives me the flexibility and freedom to travel, take time off, spend time with loved ones, and enjoy life outside of work.

• This strengthened my resolve to double down on my Work Life Vision and determine what I needed to tweak and where I wanted to refocus on.

3RD WEEK

• My body finally crashed from all the overdoing and the international travel. It was like all the adrenaline had been depleted, and I needed a staycation to shut out the world, rest and recover from all the exhaustion, and reflect upon all this stuff. Plus, I had some big looming work and life decisions I was going through, too.

• I also needed this time away to grieve and reaffirm the end of one part of my business to ready myself for the start of another. Getting all these great reviews and feedback from my beta readers highlighted the importance of this work. It become undeniable that this pivot to Soulfueled Entrepreneur was the right decision and my new path.

• I now feel more recharged, refocused, and determined. Nonetheless, going through these changes still felt scary, but it helped me recommit to what’s most important to me and my work.

Recommitting to these impactful aspects of my business:

WRITING POSTS REGULARLY
I do enjoy writing and sharing the insights I’ve discovered. I do believe that there’s a lot you can learn from my experiences without needing to go through these yourself. But I have to myself up for success in a way that feels more aligned with me.

• Schedule posts ahead of time when I don’t have the capacity to write.

• Focus on quality over quantity, which meant letting go of the need for perfect execution on strict timelines that others have defined as the standard. For me, it’s more about showing up and honoring the message when it comes through rather than forcing myself to write by a specific time every week.

  • So I’m changing my languaging from “weekly posts” to “4 posts a month”. I could feel my body relax by simply changing the wording, and that’s when I KNEW that was right for me.

ENGAGING ON NOTES ON MY OWN TERMS
Notes definitely bring in more readership and subscribers, BUT this has to be fun for me. When it becomes a demanding chore, that’s when I lose interest and burn out. That “have-to” energy can get me to take action, but it’s not always the healthiest when my workaholic tendencies take over. When this feels fun, that’s when I feel more authentic and want to create genuine interactions.

• Considerably reprogram myself to think and feel differently about social media and how I want to use it for my business. Fun is a choice, and I’ve been brainwashed for too long. It’ll take intentional effort to replace all that social-media hustle with what aligns better with me, BUT this is crucial because this is where more consistency and change in structure would pay off greatly in the long run.

• Determine how I can be consistent on my own terms while keeping it fun, too. I’ll have to tweak how I operate to account for the ebbs and flows of my energy, motivation, and availability, too.

BUILDING A BUSINESS ALIGNED WITH MY WORK LIFE VISION
As I’m redirecting my time and focus solely on Soulfueled, it feels like I’m starting up a new business, even though I have previous successes, structures, and resources. I also know where I’ve been laxing on my work boundaries and where I keep running myself ragged with work and burnout. But it’s not about blame or guilt-tripping myself. It’s about learning my lessons and choosing to approach things differently.

• Honor the changing of “seasons” as things in my business inevitably evolve and change. Embrace those transformations rather than holding onto the old and forcing things to stay the same.

• Give myself time and space to process whatever I’m feeling and then intentionally recraft and solidify my steps forward. Rushing things don’t solve problems. That’s how you create more problems you’ll have to fix down the line.

• Reevaluate and update my Work Life Vision to modify what no longer aligns and double down on the nonnegotiable aspects that I know I want. I’m done running my business according to other people’s rules and definitions of success. Following all that advice is what sent me into burnout over and over again. I’m redefining and claiming what I want going forward.

My life shouldn’t revolve around my work. My work should fit into my desired lifestyle instead.

How I felt CANNOT be my norm, so I had to face down my worst fears to release their terrifying grip on me. Now I feel such a sense of relief and have a clearer direction of what to fix and where to build towards again.

There is a lot of unlearning and reprogramming I’ll have to do, and I’ll have to be even more cautious and ruthlessly filter what advice I listen to as well.

I’m done being the sheep herded into a certain way of being.

I’m now powerfully claiming my Soulfueled path!

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Where could you have better work life boundaries? What are the ways of being that you’ve wanted but denied yourself because you were told otherwise? How would it feel to reclaim those desires?

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Analysis paralysis.

Procrastination.

Have to figure it all out first.

Considering all the possibilities… and worst case scenarios, too.

Hours, days, months wasted because of indecision.

Scared to choose.

What if… (the horror)… I get it wrong?!

I’ve had plenty of those moments waiting for the “right” time, spending time “figuring things out,” and researching and trying to learn as much as I can from others first.

I wanted certainty. I NEEDED it before I could decide.

But that need for absolute certainty in what I was doing was actually holding me back.

As an entrepreneur, you have to make decisions, whether or not you have enough time or info.

You’ll never know as much as your future self

It’s not in the overthinking that you’ll find the right answers.

It’s in the action where the “right” solution comes to you!

You’ll discover this over and over again: Something in the future will eventually toss out or throw a wrench in whatever you’ve meticulously planned in the past.

The more adaptable and flexible you are in your thinking, the better you’ll be able to navigate any situation.

Get comfortable with making mistakes

Oh, yes. Get ready to make plenty of them!

We were taught that mistakes were bad, and you had to do what you could to avoid them by making the “right” choices. You assumed certainty meant that you’d make fewer (or no) mistakes or stop wasting your time on the “wrong” things.

But failure is a part of the process. That’s where you learn.

Adopt the belief that failure is just feedback.

This one belief will relieve you of unnecessary stress, overthinking, and indecisiveness.

Because feedback is what will help you find the right answers for you.

Do your due diligence… but don’t overanalyze

Amongst all the different options and possibilities out there, it can feel overwhelming trying to “figure out” which one is the “right” one for you.

You can continuously seek more and better info or options to make sure you are fully informed.

But here’s the downside: there are always more out there.

Eventually, you’ll hit this tipping point where the more you gather, the more you’ll feel lost or uncertain. All because you’re overwhelmed with too many possibilities.

So it’s not about gathering more info. It’s about quickly eliminating what doesn’t work for you, so you can make a decision NOW.

Certainty is the wrong goal

You’re constantly navigating shifting factors. There will always be things out of your control. Circumstances are never unchanging. Other people’s thoughts, beliefs, and actions are also involved, so situations are never insular.

Instead of seeking certainty before taking action or making that commitment…

Instead of worrying about what ifs…

Instead of letting the fear, doubt, and uncertainty hold you back from what you truly want…

It’s about finding trust in yourself.

Trust that you will be able to handle whatever comes your way.

Trust that you are more than capable.

Trust that you will figure it out, no matter what.

Trust that you will be ok.

Surrendering to the uncertain can feel like the hardest or scariest thing in the world. But it’s in facing the situation and in the doing that’ll help you figure out whether it was truly “right” or not.

And with trust as your foundation…

THIS is the actual feeling you’re seeking

What if selecting an option amongst the endless possibilities felt effortless?

What if decision making could come from a state of “of course, this is what I do next” without all that nagging doubt?

It’s as if you chose your favorite option without hesitation.

What you’ve been seeking all along is the sense of “choicelessness”.

When I came across this concept, it felt like the fog lifted around me, and I could finally see what is ahead. This is the word that encapsulates the exact way of being that I’ve been searching for.

I want to show up and take action confidently from a state of “choicelessness”.

Needing certainty felt heavy and burdensome because I had to know for sure before I could take action or fully commit. On the other hand, choicelessness feels lighter, and I can feel the pull of “hell yeah, let’s do this!”

That frees up my mental power and energy to focus on what truly matters, rather than wasting it on maybes, could’ves, and should’ves.

That allows me to take more action powerfully, rather than with hesitation, fear, and doubt. I am committed to my decisions, no longer tiptoeing or one foot out the door.

That supports me in cultivating unstoppable momentum no matter what happens, as I’ll keep making decisions and taking continual actions toward my goals.

I’m no longer searching and delaying because I’m just acting from the state of mind that other options don’t matter.

So how do you develop this state of “choicelessness”?

First, you need to know exactly who you want to be and specifically where you want to go. (Psst, I call this your Work Life Vision.)

Then, act as if you’re already that ideal version of you. Yup, be that person now through your thinking, so that your actions automatically flow from that mental state and you’ll naturally have what you desire.

This is different than blindly fumbling around in all the doing in order to try to have what you want so you could finally be who you want to be. Avoid waiting until that future self shows up. Stop procrastinating with the I-can’t-be-that-until-xyz-scenario.

That version of you already knows what to do.

That version of you can put aside the unknowns because you are so hyper focused on your desires and goals that your fears and doubts are just bystanders. (Yeah, they’ll still be there, and… so what?)

Let your Work Life Vision drive you, pull you forward, and fuel your soul!

That’s where the choicelessness originates from.

That’s how you manifest and turn what you want into your reality.

It’s not just doing this once, twice, or just a few times. Your consistent, purposeful efforts will ripple this effect powerfully.

Choose the energy of choicelessness over the need for certainty, and start noticing how your behavior, confidence, and circumstances start to change. You’ll even witness how differently people respond to you, too.

Enjoy the power of choicelessness.

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What’s something you’ve been pondering on for a while now? Imagine stepping into the body of the version of you that already has the answer. How would (s)he act and think about the situation? What choiceless decision would you now make?

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Have you ever put off something because you were scared to face or deal with it?

You’re willing to do anything… but THAT THING.

This has been plaguing me quite a bit recently.

Partially it’s because I feel overstretched, stressed, and burned out.
But a big chunk of it is that I started questioning myself and what I’m doing.

Those seeds of doubt led to procrastination

In my mind, I kept thinking of how dreadful or unmotivating it felt to do that thing.

I’d sit down to work on it, but minutes later, my mind squirrels to something else.

Suddenly, my mind became such a great helper by coming up with all these other tasks I now feel like doing at this very moment… just to help me procrastinate.

Not to mention, unhelpful worst case scenarios would parade through my mind as well.

All this continual mental and emotional build up likens doing that task to climbing Mount Everest.

I have two choices… keep avoiding it or just suck it up and tackle it.

I’d either then realize, “Oh, doing that wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be,” or I’d keep carrying that miserable “this sucks” or “this isn’t working” energy into the task then I find excuses to stop.

I had to put an end to this

“What is more important?”

Getting it done or my excuses and stories for why I don’t want to do it?

Then I’d follow up with, “Why am I not following through with my commitments?”

I had to remind myself that no matter what that task is…

It’s the mental and emotional energy I inject into the experience that either increases or decreases my chances of completion or success.

Continually “thinking about it” doesn’t take me closer to completion.

Needing to figure out the “perfect” strategy is just a delay tactic.

“I’m busy with other stuff” is another excuse.

Because if I thought it was important (or enjoyable) enough, I’d just do it.

Everyone has the same amount of time in the day.

The only difference between me and the person who already has what I want is that…They did something about it.
They prioritized its importance.
They wanted it bad enough.

Sure, there could be some elements of luck in it.

But they also kept putting themselves in those situations where luck would more easily find them as well.

I had to get radically honest with myself

“Have I been showing up for myself?”
…and it sucks to answer myself with a “no”.

However, I started to make this distinction lately by asking this particular set of questions to find out what’s really puppeteering my fears and avoidance:

• Am I setting realistic timeframes to get these tasks done?
  …aka “Am I trying to do too many things simultaneously?”

• Am I setting ridiculously high expectations and exerting undue pressure on myself to achieve these goals?
  …aka “Is it necessary to push myself this hard?”

• Is this really what I want to do? Does this still align with my vision?
  …aka “Am I unconsciously chasing someone else’s goals instead?”

• Am I still honoring myself in this process?
  …aka “Am I trying to act like someone else?”

What I learned from answering these follow up questions is much more insightful and actionable than that simple, guilt-ridden “no.”

My avoidance is trying to tell me something.

Because something is inherently off.

It is my responsibility to find out what and why

Not doing so doesn’t help me resolve my underlying problems.

Pushing ahead and forcing my way through things doesn’t help in the long run.

From those insights, I discovered what I needed to change for my overall wellbeing and make sure I didn’t veer too far off course either.

These little intuitive nudges can be easily overlooked or bypassed.

But when you take the time to listen to their subtle cues and take action, you’ll find that's exactly the answer you need at that moment.

USEFUL JOURNAL PROMPTS

Think of a previous situation where your avoidance ended up becoming a positive experience for you. What could you learn from that experience to help you battle avoidance in the future?

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